Monday, August 14, 2006

hometown

We live in Gino's hometown. Meaning, he's lived here since he was 5 years old. I am a military brat. Meaning, I never lived anywhere longer than 4 years. I've lived in Arizona, Panama, Texas (3 times, 3 different cities), California, Oklahoma, Ohio, Massachussetts... I think that's all of 'em. Going to college for my four year degree was the longest I stayed in one place- because it took 4.5 years.

So, what's my point? Well, it seems that most social things Gino and I do have to do with friends or colleagues of his. Now, granted, I'm a SAHM, so I don't have any colleagues that I see every day. Yes, there are plenty of SAHM that I am good friends with, and I would love to hang out with them more- but I'm afraid they're doing the same thing. Socializing with their spouse's peers.

I get the added bonus of socializing with one of Gino's friends that I see at a wedding shower... fast forward three years, and we get an invite to their two-year old's birthday party. I just have to ask- why oh why would you invite me and my family to your son's birthday party when I haven't seen you in three years- and before that, never??!! Or invited to a wedding of a friend that he knew in highschool, and hasn't seen since?? (15 years ago!)

I just don't get it.

So, I guess this comes down to this: this is my husband's hometown. He has childhood/elementary/highschool/college buddies that live around here. And they like to keep in touch. Which is sweet and all that....

Maybe I'm jealous. Maybe I yearn for that relationship with a deep or, at least long, past. Who knows. In the meanwhile, I'll try to get over myself and grin and bear it. Maybe someday we'll have lived here long enough (seven years so far) that I'll feel like it's my hometown. What makes your town feel like home to you?

3 comments:

Julie D. said...

First of all ... when did you start blogging again and WHY oh why didn't you TELL me?!

Secondly, like you for much of your life, I moved around a lot. I don't have any friends from kindergarten, high school, or most of the years after with whom I can talk, or even remember names, frankly. I have one pair of college friends that I still email occasionally (they are married to each other).

What makes this town feel like home is the community I have through my church ... which includes you and Gino, of course. :-)

Tim said...

It's mainly because my four kids live here, they are teens and twenties.

Tammy said...

I just got to read this and sometimes feel the same way! My honey has lived here almost his entire life and most of his extended family lives here too. I have lived here 4 years. I must say that the community at STA and in the part of town we're in really helps. I go to a store and run into someone I know - just makes it feel more like home.